What are the signs of betrayal?

The betrayal is becoming increasingly present in the current days, a relationship that was initiated by two soon turns three, four or more involved and hardly the partner or partner is aware of the occasion, after all, they say that these are the last to know.

However, the person who practices betrayal leaves noticeable signs and that sometimes are exactly the beginning of the distrust that will lead the individual to discover the truth.

Of course, not all cases that present any suspicious signs mean betrayal, there may be only a lack of communication between the couple.

Here's how electronic gadgets, unexpected engagements, exacerbated security, withdrawal, radical changes, arranged fights and other aspects can indicate signs that you're being betrayed.

Signs of betrayal

Time spent using the cell phone, commitments that suddenly arise and take over your partner's hours, and withdrawal with absence of affection sometimes mean betrayal.

Follow below these and other cases that indicate that you are being betrayed.

Use of electronic communication

The use of electronic communications such as cell phones and computers are, as a rule, the easiest way to initiate a betrayal.

A theoretically clean electronic with erased traces is a sign that there is something wrong, whether it is a cell phone or even a computer, since they are widely used and for this reason the normality is to contain various contents.

Be aware if your partner waits for your distraction or waits for you to go to sleep for him to start using these means of communication, after all, if there is nothing to hide there is no need to wait for the moment to be alone.

Emergence of commitments

When the partner begins to be more solicitous than before for activities that normally he/she did not perform or if he/she performed them in a hurried and complaining manner, it means a sign of betrayal.

Courses, meetings and travel outside the workday can yes mean a professional growth, but the ideal is to analyze whether the information match or if there is some loose end in communication, since they are excellent means to maintain the betrayal.

However, this is not the time to get paranoid, if the person is going to cheat on you they will leave some trail that will be revealed at some point.

Traces of infidelity

The traces of infidelity are the marks left by the one who betrays and for this reason are very noticeable in the face of betrayal.

A sudden withdrawal, an unexpected charge, suspicious commitments, absence of affection and attention, as well as conversations or digital media are some of the numerous traces left by the one who practices betrayal and who hopes never to be caught.

However, every track eventually becomes public, especially if that person already has antecedents and suspicions in his favor, for having already committed some action of the kind or just for having tried.

Too much security

Feeling safe and wanting to protect your things, data and your privacy is essential, especially in this day and age, however too much security means something is wrong, like a betrayal.

Exacerbated security tends to be present in cases of those who have something to hide, because if you do not want something to be revealed you will not measure efforts to keep it safe.

Exactly the same happens in cases of betrayal, since no one betrays wanting his partner to know, seeks at all costs too much protection from everything that could compromise him.

Sudden interest

If your partner/partner without any reason or change in their personal life, has suddenly started to develop interest in things they didn't have before or didn't make a point of having around, it's a sign of betrayal.

An activity outside the home, even a basic one, that used to be done in a bad mood or not done at all and has now become the complete opposite, is worthy of arousing suspicion considering that it is a great time to hold a discreet conversation.

So be aware even of the personal interests that your partner has suddenly started to develop, those who try to please their neighbor are not always just friends.

Absence of affection

Having the time for friends and family is completely common within any relationship, the problem arises when these become a priority and you get left out.

It is very important to keep an eye on your partner's withdrawal because sometimes it happens so slowly and imperceptibly that in the end you wouldn't even imagine it ended in betrayal.

The absence of affection and affection, even an active sex life, tends to make the other party of the relationship seek this in other people or even the one who has moved away is doing so, for lack of communication.

Family estrangement

Family estrangement is one of the most important and easiest signs to observe when a betrayal has already been accomplished or even when the betrayer is thinking of accomplishing it.

This occurs due to remorse on the part of the one who betrayed, considering that the feeling of guilt will consume him/her and make him/her withdraw more and more from everything and everyone involving the partner/partner who was betrayed.

The family, therefore, being the closest to the victim becomes the target of estrangement, the remorse is so great that that person cannot be in the same environment as those who love the betrayed person.

Fights to justify

In order to seek an escape from the relationship and try to put the blame on the victim of the betrayal, the betrayer begins to invent unnecessary reasons and arguments, so that the other feels guilty for the estrangement and this justifies his wrongful acts.

It is much easier to blame the other party in the relationship and say that they don't provide you with what you wanted than it is to deal with the guilt of having cheated, so you need to be aware if it really is a fair fight.

The opposite also occurs, when collections stop being made is because your partner no longer cares what you do or fail to do.

Unfounded accusations

It is very common that with the course of the relationship one of the parties or even both will let it fall into routine, making the moments for two monotonous and dull.

This is one of the reasons why the individual feels in the position of cheating, because he seeks outside the relationship something that is not provided to him there.

Due to this reason the traitor begins to act on the defensive and to provoke unfounded accusations, taking even from a single harmless moment something to justify his betrayal, since he always seeks to reverse his guilt and to accuse the victim of the betrayal, however small the fact may be.

Radical makeover

As the relationship goes on, it is quite common for one or both parties to stop taking care of themselves and get used to a routine life, without preparing a surprise or some change in the look.

So, it is also common for your partner to change from time to time and want to please you, even to improve the relationship or try to fix something that is not cool.

However, if there is an exaggerated concern about wanting to look more stylish and sexy, but at the same time not using that within the relationship, all the preparation will not be for you, it is a sign of betrayal.

Reasons for betrayal

Even though at first glance there are no justifiable reasons for betrayal, it is important to highlight some facts that contribute to its occurrence.

Follow along and see how betrayal is influenced by certain factors and personal problems.

Low self-esteem

When there is a betrayal soon the betrayed person wonders why he is going through this and if it was something he probably did that led him to betray, however, often what he does not think is that the problem stems from the betrayer himself.

If the individual suffers from low self-esteem problems, he tries at all costs to feel valued and depends on the approval of others, so that a stable relationship no longer provides this.

That is, these people cheat because they are always having to prove their self-love by trying conquest and seduction with other people, which ends up becoming an illusion.

Fear of involvement

Another justification, in parts, for when betrayal occurs is the fear of involvement, as the individual suffering from this problem tries in every way to ward off any lasting relationship.

As he realizes that the relationship has become something more and that he is getting emotionally involved, he begins to act in ways that this feeling is interrupted and one of those ways is cheating.

Therefore, the betrayal of the one who is afraid to get involved is used as a means of security and protection to avoid something stable, which ends up hurting his partner/partner.

Have you ever been the victim of betrayal

The one who has been the victim of a betrayal carries with it a great trauma and for this reason often ends up acting the same way he suffered, that is, as he went through the same situation, others may go through.

However, one must understand that it is a vicious cycle, if everyone thinks this way betrayal will become extremely common and a burden to be carried and passed on by all who have suffered with it.

Still, there are cases in which the fear of being betrayed again is so great that the author of the betrayal prefers not to risk and is already ahead to do it and not have to suffer all over again.

Addiction to seduction

The addiction to seduction is one of the reasons that are most present in general in betrayals, this occurs because some men and women have the desire and insatiable desire to be always seducing.

These people act as if it were a game of conquest regardless of whether or not they are in a serious relationship and it is at this time that betrayal occurs because when you are single such game is fully acceptable, but when you are in a relationship not so much.

Sometimes these people are incapable of maintaining a serious relationship but they try to prove that they can, and in the middle of the way they end up giving in to their initial game and concretizing the betrayal.

Experiencing traumas

If the person grew up in the presence of certain situations there is a huge possibility that he adopts these terms as if they were correct and for this reason the experience of a childhood with betrayals in their daily lives make him understand that betrayal is something normal.

Still, even if you understand that it is not normal after living another reality, you will continue with the difficulty of maintaining a relationship without the presence of betrayal.

It is as if it were involuntary, it becomes difficult to understand why one cannot betray or even difficult to free oneself from the need to betray.

Feeling of boredom

It is common with the passage of time relationships will be emptying, both that the routine is something good because when broken becomes something special, whether a trip, a party, a surprise or a gift, both are responsible for rebuilding the relationship.

However, if there is an absence of these moments the feeling of boredom tends to increase and therefore leads to the occurrence of betrayal.

That is, there is a decrease in the quality of the relationship and the idea of seeking something new and containing that beginning energy and chill in the belly becomes increasingly advantageous and insatiable.

Quest for vengeance

The most vindictive people tend to practice betrayal justified based on actions they didn't think were cool, attitudes that caused rebellion, or moments they didn't feel supported, as if the betrayal was payback.

Still, there is also the practice of betrayal in the search for revenge for having already been betrayed, since it is not in their goals to forgive and forget, if he suffered with the betrayal, his partner/partner may also suffer.

For this reason revenge ends up becoming one of the grounding means of betrayal.

Call for help

As different as it may seem, betrayal can occur due to a cry for help that is sometimes made involuntarily, thinking that if the fact of betrayal comes to light part of their problems will be solved.

It can be a means of seeking appropriate solutions to problems in the relationship without having to face a dialogue, or it can be a means of ending the relationship because one does not find the courage to do so directly.

Thus, the cry for help is hidden behind the betrayal and this is used as a means to accomplish what was in difficulty.

How to deal with betrayal

If you have been betrayed and are not knowing how to deal with the situation, some attitudes such as dialogue and forgiveness are the first step.

Here's how to react and what to do after discovering a betrayal.

The importance of dialogue

Dialogue is the best and the main way to deal with the discovery of betrayal, it is necessary that first of all there is the conversation to understand why the betrayal happened and how the relationship will be from this moment on.

Furthermore, the dialogue is capable of totally changing the course of the situation because some fact may emerge that was not known before and that makes things easier to settle.

However, this can also be the gateway to a healthy ending, and there can be forgiveness but an understanding that you can no longer be together.

Don't listen to others

An important step to do after discovering a betrayal is to sit down and talk about how the situation will look and once awake the ideal is to stay in that position.

In other words, whether it's a reunited relationship and a forgiven betrayal or a breakup in which everyone goes their own way, it's extremely important to let the flow go as decided.

Don't pay attention to the opinion of others, if they think you should break up or stay together, they don't live your reality and your relationship, live and decide for you.

To truly forgive

Forgiveness in truth is the most important detail for those who want to overcome a betrayal, because an empty forgiveness and mouth to mouth tends to return and recall the situation in any fight after the fact.

The one who really forgives and forgets in a certain way, for his own good and that of his partner, everything becomes lighter and makes all the situations lived in the relationship, after the fact, more tranquil.

Always be true to yourself, when we forgive we become free of the pain that the act caused us.

Escape from routine

Escaping from routine is a great method to follow after discovering a betrayal, if you've hit it off and decided to stick with what you had, do your best to make your moments together unique.

Try to rekindle your affection and value the programs that you have done together, such as going to a festival, traveling, dining out, going to the movies or theater and even spending a night in a motel.

Make your relationship worth living and remembering, make it so that when you are together you don't need anything else, just each other's company.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes

Putting yourself in your partner's shoes is the ideal way for you to understand why that betrayal happened and thus proceed to truly forgive and live several moments together.

Do not think that every act was done against you, in fact the problem is in the other, whether it is some weakness, trauma or need that goes beyond you, belonging to the defects of the individual.

For this reason empathy is necessary and understanding your reasons for this can save your relationship or at least give it a chance for forgiveness and dialogue.

Is it only cheating when the infidelity is physical?

There are those who believe that betrayal is only about physical contact and that any other mere act would fall under other situations, however, it is not quite so that occurs.

When we talk about betrayal, this ceases to be merely a physical aspect and becomes linked to several other factors, an example of this is an emotional betrayal in which there is no physical contact between the parties but the betrayer develops feelings for another person.

Another aspect that is easy to be identified as betrayal are the lies that are kept within the relationship, which at first start with small things and end up resulting in a nest of lies.

There are those who argue that virtual sex is also a type of betrayal and even for those who do not think so, when this is consumed in excess ends up leaving your partner/partner aside.