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Understand the sign of Libra
Libra is an indecisive sign, you know? Too much thinking has made it so. It is the duality of the scale, the opposition to Aries, the influence of Saturn, plus the Air element. All this added to the desire to be fair and balanced, because the Librian believes that rationalizing is the best solution.
As if their own dualities weren't enough, the Librian needs a partner, someone to be their other half and share ideas, dreams and spotlight, because they hate loneliness. If it's not their other half, it's no good. And, if it is, the Librian will do everything to be compatible with their beloved and trim all the edges that make them differ.
This article explains in detail all the issues and influences that the sign of Libra suffers in the astrological chart reading. Read and learn about this sign in various areas of life, including guidelines according to planets and astrological houses.
Aspects of the Sign of Libra in Astrology
Here are the first steps to identify a Librian: his date of birth and the relationship of the sign with symbols and its representation. Read and learn about the sign of Libra.
Date of the sign of Libra
Libra is the sign following Virgo in the horoscope and its period begins at the autumnal equinox. The exact dates are from September 22 to the 23rd of the following month, October. Because it is a sign that opens the season, it is considered a cardinal sign.
Libra in astrology
Seventh sign of the zodiac and therefore opposite Aries, Libra is a cardinal sign. It is ruled by the planet Venus, and belongs to the element Air.
Opposition to Aries, it is a sign about the collective. Under the ruler with Venus, the Librian's interest in romance is found. And from the Air element comes the ease of communication.
Cardinal signs are the signs of idealizers, of people who create and produce innovations. Combined with the Air element and Venus, it is possible to understand why Libra is a sign which gives great importance to relationships.
Being cardinal, Libra initiates projects and the element points to the universe of ideas, that is, Libra is a sign that rules relationships and partnerships because, through the rulership of Venus, it can unite people in the field of ideas, either by introducing friends or organizing social gatherings.
Libra and the planet Venus
The rulership of Venus in Libra justifies Librians having such an appreciation for beauty and romance. Unlike Taureans, who tend to be interested in luxury and comfort, Librians tend more towards romance, as a way of finding balance and of the partner signifying the Librian's worth.
Another characteristic of Venus here is beauty: Librians have very good taste and are interested in everything that is beautiful, besides people with ascendant or Sun in Libra are usually considered beautiful.
Libra and the Air element
The Air element is the one related to mind and communication, that's why Librians, Gemini and Aquarians have a facility with abstract ideas, science and arts. These signs have agile minds and can understand different perspectives on the same subject.
Libra's facility with diplomacy is part of the influence of the Air element, the use of words and expression of ideas to a purpose. Creativity is also a characteristic of the element. On the other hand, Librians have difficulty dealing with emotions and feelings, which makes them seem distant.
Air is the element of idealistic people, who seek the truth and are always open to dialogue and willing to cooperate for the greater good.
The Scale and the symbology of the sign of Libra
The Libra symbol represents the weights of the scales, but it can also be read as the sun's path across the sky to sunset.
Another way to understand this symbol is that of the upper line, which describes almost a complete circle and ends in a straight line, representing the difficulty of understanding the other in their entirety.
Constellation of Libra
Actually, the sign of Libra does not represent the Libra Constellation, but part of the constellation of Scorpio, specifically, the claws. The Libra correspondence has these two meanings, the scales and the claws of the constellation of Scorpio.
Libra, as a myth, is represented by the goddess Dike, who in the service of Zeus dealt with the souls of the dead and judged them. Or by the goddess Astraea, goddess of innocence who represents the sign of Virgo.
This connection with the previous sign and the following sign has a lot of significance within the sign of Libra, as it can be understood as the duality of Libra and the work of weighing reason and instinct, or innocence and revenge.
Libra Sign Characteristics
Libra is a sign about balance and the relationship with the other. These two main traits can be understood in many ways and depending on the context, can be a blessing or a curse. Understand all the details below.
Positive traits
It is impossible to call a Librian unfair. They look for balance and justice in all things, always able to understand the other side, mediating all involved until a solution that leaves everyone satisfied.
They are also very helpful people who will do anything to help those they love. And they are really happy to be considerate, because they need their family and friends to be in harmony.
Another characteristic, a trait of Venus' influence, is an extreme good taste. Librians are always well-dressed, read interesting things, and are able to fit into all environments, always leaving a good impression.
Negative traits
The Librian's need to always have a partner and seek people to complete him or her can lead to toxic relationships. The desire to please and complete the other person can harm the Librian and, in the extreme, lead to codependency.
This doesn't mean that the Librian can't be manipulative. It's easy for them to match the other person in the best and the worst. Venus has that, to attract and manipulate. Thus, the Libra native can also make a relationship toxic.
They are worried about not being alone, and so insecure that this ability to manipulate can serve to try to control the people around them so that the Librian will maintain the relationship or the position of prominence.
Concern about their social circle and what they think of them can make the Libra extremely insecure, to the point that they live by appearances or remain in an environment that is bad for them.
Finally, there is a lot of fickleness, and they are loved by many. In case they get tired of you, there are other people in view. Librians have the terrible ability to treat people as disposable.
Sign of Libra in the areas of life
Below you will see more about the behavior of a Librian in various areas of life. Read on to learn what to expect from a Librian, or work on your self-awareness process if you are one!
Libra Sign in Love
Flirting, charm and charisma come naturally to Librians, and when they are in love, they become the best version of themselves. They find it easy to be in a relationship.
It is so easy to like a Librian, that it can be difficult to have a serious relationship with one, because they are not ready to share problems and solutions, or be vulnerable. Wanting to deal with everything alone, Librians can push their loved one away.
Expectations for the partner are high. A Librian's partner needs equivalent moral standards, who is pleasant and kind. They will probably be a couple with many affinities, as Librians tend to be involved with similar people.
The truth is that Librians want someone who can see beyond appearances, who understands their insecurities and conflicts and knows how to deal with this duality. Having someone who understands them and encourages them to be themselves is very important.
Librians need to learn to trust, to talk about their desires and expectations, and not to try to control the other person. It is necessary to understand that couple issues are solved in pairs and that good relationships are built.
Libra Sign at Work
Librians are people who like to analyze, to learn a little bit of everything, to be among people and are natural mediators.
For this reason, areas such as mediation and diplomacy, or that work with communication and art are very interesting areas for Librians, because in this way they can employ their aesthetic sense or sense of justice to the world. Areas which value logic and at the same time work together are also interesting.
In fact, a Librian wants to work in a nice place with comfort. He may be interested in traditional careers that allow him to have a comfortable lifestyle.
However, work cannot become something dominant in your life. Being able to divide the time between family, friends and taking care of the house is essential for a Librian to be happy. Even because a Librian's goal does not involve work, it is to achieve balance and to have love as a fortress.
Libra Sign in the family
In the family, the Librian is the appeaser, the one who tries to get around fights, even if it hurts him. Family harmony is most important and it can be difficult to say no to the one he loves.
Therefore, it can be interesting for the Librian to have some distance to discover his own personality, identify with other people and feel validated. A space in which he can choose not to fit in, or to move away.
As children, they love art and develop an aesthetic sense from an early age. And although they are sociable, they need to be encouraged to connect with other children, as they can live in the world of imagination. Also encourage them to have routines and make decisions independently.
Librian parents, on the other hand, are liberal, who love to pamper with gifts and sweets, treat their children equally and hate fights and tantrums.
Sign of Libra in your horoscope
There are three main positions in the birth chart reading: the Sun, which reflects in all aspects how your identity, the Moon, which indicates instincts and rules childhood and the Ascendant, which guides your relationship with others and how people perceive you. Learn about Libra in these positions and the meaning of the Libra house below.
Sun in Libra
The Sun is the focus of the predictions as it reveals most of your personality, and is influenced by the other planets and features in the chart. Your Sun can be summed up as your heart.
This position indicates a gentle person, communicative, always ready to help, who believes in justice and the best of all. You may be considered without initiative or indecisive, because you prefer to take your time to decide and measure all the options. Make them respect your time.
The Sun in Libra is falling, as it is opposite Aries, the exaltation of the Sun. It is a sign that tends to react to others, be very rational and that values being together. React, as it will be kind to those who are kind and distant from those who bother it, or what it considers ugly.
This emotional detachment borders on indifference. It is normal for the Librian to try to analyze his own emotions and expect, even try to manipulate, others to follow his logic and conform to his moral standards.
Ascendant in Libra
The Ascendant is a sign that adds to the characteristics of the sun sign and corresponds to other people's impression of you and your physical characteristics.
People with Ascendant in Air signs tend to be tall and long. With Ascendant in Libra, they are considered beautiful and well-groomed, always paying attention to details that highlight their best features. People with Ascendant in Libra are beautiful and they know it.
Moon in Libra
The Moon indicates issues from your relationship with your mother, what your childhood was like, and the building of inner issues, indicating what your emotional needs are.
If your Moon is in Libra, it is likely that you were a perfect, quiet child who did not demand too much from your family, always trying to avoid problems in a home where arguments and verbal aggression were common.
Your relationship with your mother is distant because she put her partner or the pursuit of her partner always first, giving you little attention. Being a good child was her way of approaching you.
These issues end up making the person with Moon in Libra someone who always puts themselves in second place. It is necessary to learn to value yourself in order to break the negative cycle and find happiness.
The astrological house ruled by Libra: the 7th house
The astrological 7th house is the house of relationships. At first, a house about marriage, but it can extend to all the social relationships a person has. How people connect in general.
From this House it is possible to understand, for example, the characteristics that attract you to a certain type of person. And also those that create repulsion and lead you to enmity.
The Decanates of the Sign of Libra
Decanate is a division of the sun sign into three periods of ten degrees, or approximately ten days. In each decanate there is the rulership of a planet that highlights a set of characteristics of the sign. Read on to learn more about the three decanates of the sign of Libra!
First Decanate of Libra - 23/09 to 01/10
The first decade of Libra is ruled by Venus, which makes the ability to socialize, good taste and romanticism stand out. This Librian wants a partner who shows his feelings promptly and without fear, will distribute charm wherever he goes and seeks balance between all areas of life.
It is possible to note that in the first decade are generally the most outstanding characteristics of the sign.
Second Decanate of Libra - 02/10 to 11/10
The second decanate is Uranus and here creativity is the Librian's strong point. Although Uranus seems like a point out of the curve, this planet helps the Librian to be practical. Which makes these people more balanced.
Librians of the second decanate, for example, have fewer social needs and may even live solitary lives, which seems unthinkable for Libra's normal need for socialization.
3rd decade of Libra - 12/10 to 22/10
The third decanate is ruled by Mercury, planet that rules communication and will highlight the characteristics of the Librian in this sense. It brings focus to their ability to organize, and the intelligence of these people will be a constant focus of attraction.
It is also in this decadate that the most indecisive Librians are, Mercury makes them move between several ideas, without insisting on any of them.
Libra and the combination with other signs
Respect and dialogue are necessary in any relationship. Without respect and dialogue it is not possible, the relationship wears thin and can end up problematic. Besides these essential issues, there may be other topics that, not being well worked out, will generate conflicts.
Learn below what can be the hotspots of tension and the strengths of a relationship with a Librian!
Sign of Libra and Aries
In principle, Aries and Libra complement each other in many ways, because Aries is energetic and Libra is quiet. In fact, Libra likes Aries to be ambitious and impulsive. And sexually, they are very good together. The attraction is intense.
However, serious miscommunication can happen and Aries' behavior can bring insecurity to the Librian, as the likes in common tend to be few and the Arian is not the close and caring person that the Librian desires.
Sign of Libra and Taurus
Being ruled by Venus does not make Libra and Taurus two similar signs. The type of life that the Taurus desires is very different from the beauty, art and sophistication that the Librian seeks.
In this relationship, the insecurities of both signs can be touched up, because Taurus is slow to give in, leaving the Librian insecure, and Libra needs the attention of several people, which causes discomfort to the Taurus, who needs to be the focus of attention of those he loves.
Both are so cautious that many of these issues may not be talked about and neither will express their feelings fully.
Sign of Libra and Gemini
The meeting of Libra and Gemini brings the freedom to dialogue without filters, the two can talk about anything openly. Gemini makes Libra less serious, while Libra makes Gemini affectionate. And one understands the other's need for space.
The problem stems from the Librian's insecurity, who may take it personally that Gemini doesn't think about what they say, and may take some lines as insulting. Another point of tension is competitiveness. Both can end up becoming rivals instead of partners.
Sign of Libra and Cancer
A relationship between Libra and Cancer possibly starts from friendship, as neither of them makes the first step when they feel attracted. Lack of initiative is a weakness of both signs. One of them needs to make the first step, or the relationship won't even start.
You need to balance the expectations of both, as the Cancerian needs to build things and think about the future, while the Librian keeps his plans as ideas and needs to be pulled back to solid ground. These expectations can create frustrations and need to be talked about always.
Sign of Libra and Leo
Leo and Libra have a lot of chemistry and ease in their relationship. And they are very similar: they both want to build a family, have children and grow old together. It is natural that they choose a serious relationship.
What can be a drawback is the need, both Libra and Leo, to receive attention and this need to generate distrust, jealousy and control on the part of the Librian that will end up pushing the other person away.
Sign of Libra and Virgo
The Librian feels insecure with the criticism of Virgo and the Virgoan suffers with the duality of Libra, as he expected security and a fairy tale.
The differences don't stop there. The personalities are very different, Libra is extroverted, Virgo is not. The communication also needs effort to work out, both keeping what they feel and rationalizing too much.
Having common goals helps this relationship. It's easier to talk about plans for the future than about feelings, but at some point it will be necessary to take the first step and talk about love.
Sign of Libra and Libra
Libra and Libra are great friends, who respect each other's freedom and talk about plans and ideas with ease. They have a lot to share and can build good times together. But insecurity and lack of initiative is also there and can cause stumbling blocks.
These issues can reach the level where the partner is used to massage the ego, the relationship does poorly, but neither takes the initiative to end it decisively.
Balancing the rational side and taking initiative to show affection is important, because both of you want to fall in love, but you forbid yourself hyper analyzing and not taking initiative to act on what you feel.
Sign of Libra and Scorpio
The connection between Libra and Scorpio begins physical and can be expanded to other areas of life.
It is necessary to pay attention to jealousy, the Libra and Scorpio couple are very different people in the way they express themselves, interests and values. It is necessary that they work hard building trust.
Sign of Libra and Sagittarius
In general, there is enough stability, romance and affection between Libra and Sagittarius. Libra enjoys Sagittarius' energy so much that they can even forget their obligations. One will do anything to make the other happy. Sexually, satisfaction is certain.
Libra and Sagittarius have a strong mental connection and the connection between the two is strong and genuine. On the other hand, they both have trouble trusting. Balancing the need for affection and the space they need can also create tension.
Sign of Libra and Capricorn
A relationship between Libra and Capricorn tends to be very down-to-earth, without illusions, which makes trust between both of them a strong point. If it develops, this relationship has everything to be very positive as it combines Capricorn's practicality with Libra's inventiveness.
The problem is that Capricorn is naturally distant, which can cause insecurity, or the Librian starts to mirror Capricorn's stubbornness. They need to take the initiative to talk to each other and understand each other, because withdrawing when faced with a problem is one of Capricorn's faults. They need to find ways to show affection and avoid distancing themselves.
Sign of Libra and Aquarius
The combination of Libra and Aquarius gets along very well. One can trust the other without restraint, and even the insecurities of each, when they arise, are pushed aside without difficulty. This is not to say that they don't need to work on their relationship, as it is always necessary, but the interactions are very easy between them.
An example of what needs to be balanced for Libra and Aquarius to work is Libra's indecisiveness and Aquarius' impatience.
Sign of Libra and Pisces
The expectations for the relationship are very different, which can cause conflicts, as Libra seeks stability and Pisces seeks romance. Both signs are also very indecisive, which can make the relationship tiresome.
Sign of Libra in the astrological houses
Astrological Houses are manifestations of the energy of the planets and signs in our lives. Below you will better understand the manifestation of Libra in each of the twelve Houses of the zodiac. Read on!
Libra in 1st House
This is the House of the Ascendant, which represents the self, the image the person presents to others, health and overall physical characteristics.
Here the Sun is in decline, and the person with Libra in the 1st house finds himself through the people around him, to the point that his identity is defined by his relationships. In this case it is important to observe what kind of relationship the native tends to, through the position of Venus in his chart.
Ideally, the native of Libra in the 1st House should not get carried away or exhaust himself trying to control other people, even if he finds it difficult to take initiatives and do things on his own.
Libra in the 2nd House
The second House concerns how the native sustains himself, that is, his relationship with material goods and what brings security.
Having Libra in the 2nd House indicates that the person doesn't mind making an effort and searching for resources for their own comfort, but will do the possible and the impossible to provide for someone else. At the same time they are looking for someone with purchasing power equivalent to their own, who are similar in many ways.
Those who have this placement in the chart often base their value on the way people treat them, which can be very problematic as they may be seeing their partner as a possession or diminishing themselves to meet other people's expectations.
Libra in the 3rd House
The third House is related to family aspects and patterns, their environment and their way of learning.
Those who have Libra in this House are constantly rationalising their relationships but need to share their thoughts. They are very communicative but find it difficult to speak their mind, which can destroy the relationship.
Libra in 4th House
The fourth House is relative to family, emotional issues, genetics and the traditions one grows up with. It is a House that speaks about personal satisfaction, bonding skills and the ability to recognize and pursue happiness.
The family relationship of those with Libra in the 4th house was smooth, the parents set good examples and successfully transmitted notions of responsibility and good manners.
However, there is a question. This upbringing somehow led the native to believe that his worth should be measured by the success and failure of other people. And today, it becomes necessary to disassociate that his happiness can be achieved by the standard of others.
What's more, without a close person to share and have a sense of communion with, it's easy to feel lost. The Libra native in 4th house needs to create a family wherever they go.
Libra in 5th House
This House represents happiness and inspiration. It speaks about all the innocent pleasures and little things that cheer up. It can be understood as the house of the inner child.
With Libra in this House, happiness is easily attained by being surrounded by people. It can be a tricky position in the chart, as your native places your happiness depending on other people.
It is a position that indicates great chances for long and healthy relationships, but more important than map, is respect between people.
Libra in 6th House
The 6th house is the house of habits, routine and personal care that generate a quiet life or not. This house also involves the limit to the physical and mental wear and tear of the family routine and work.
Overall, Libra in the 6th House can control health issues well, as they tend not to overindulge and build a healthy routine.
Perhaps the native even has someone close by looking after you and ensuring your well-being, or has someone with whom you do all activities together, dividing responsibilities equally and both looking after each other.
Libra in 7th House
It is the House of partnerships, especially marriage, but involves any kind of partnership, including work. The 7th House also presents which characteristics are considered ideal or attractive.
A person with Libra in the 7th house has their partnerships well established, to the point that they tend to be super spoiled by their partners, who will be willing to give in and focus on their dreams and priorities. It is worth remembering that in relationships, the parties involved need to give in and balance each other in order to have a healthy relationship.
And unlike with the Sun in Libra, in this position, one is able to separate one's personal life from social relationships. With social having so much weight, marriage becomes a goal.
Libra in 8th House
In principle, the 8th house is the one that shows how one deals with problems, crises and transformations required by life. It also explains how each one deals with taboos and prohibitions.
Natives with Libra in this House have a reclusive, defensive nature, as if they expect other people to try to control them. At the same time, they seek relationships that bring power or influence.
This question of control is so strong that the tendency is to seek this dominance over the other person, or to be dependent to the point that the other person ends up having the power that they fear.
Libra in the 8th house comes with questions about independence and learning to differentiate between love and obligation within marriage, and seeking a balance where no one has control over the other. The desire to live a fairy tale goes through several fears that need to be worked through in order to achieve a healthy relationship.
Libra in 9th House
The 9th house has to do with the ability to deal with the abstract, philosophies of life, plans, travel and the unexpected. It is about how knowledge is expanded and experiences are built.
People with Libra in this House seek to get close to people who are similar to them in political alignment, religion, spirituality and philosophical direction, but who can teach them in some way.
This can make Libra in the 9th house a tricky placement, as the native is guided by various personalities, expecting them to guide him or her, and creating idealizations about these people. Trying to match others can be a painful process.
Also, too high expectations of who the native believes he or she should or needs to be can create conflict in many areas of life.
Libra in 10th House
In the 10th house is what one wishes to pass on to others as a personal memory or legacy. It also indicates how one intends to achieve one's goals.
Here the Libra need for connection becomes a life goal, and there is a possibility that your success at work will depend on the influence of your partner, but on the whole this relationship already has a great bearing on the vision of self-worth which the native has.
The goals of someone with Libra in the 10th house involve having emotional connection in some way, and having someone to share the spotlight with. To be someone that people turn to for happiness and to solve problems. It is possible to find this through family and marriage or through traditional professions like diplomats and lawyers.
Libra in 11th House
The 11th House is the House of friendship and shared ideals. While the 5th House talks about innate happiness, here it is understood how one deals with collective issues.
For those who have Libra in this House, it is possible that the relationship began through friends, or have been friends, before being a couple. It is ideal that you can move in the same circles together, as these natives prefer to be among people.
Libra in 12th House
The last house speaks about the instinctive, the unconscious, your dreams and fantasies, and people with Libra in the 12th house tend to be very sensitive to emotional and spiritual matters. These are abilities that they may deny, for various reasons.
One possible reason is that because they are so sensitive to the emotional state of others, it brings them a great burden and obligation to meet that expectation, or create idealizations about the other, which is not ideal for their mental and emotional health.
In both cases, it can lead to a lot of frustration and conflict caused by your own actions.
Sign of Libra in the stars
Planets are a group of celestial bodies which include planets plus the Sun and Moon and their positioning in the birth chart explain personal aspects, social aspects and even how a generation acts. They represent one's impulses and needs.
Most of the celestial bodies indicated in the astrological chart, except the Sun, are related to a Greco-Roman deity. Through these combinations, it is possible to understand how each person reacts on a certain subject. Mars, for example, is a planet where one tries to find out how the person reacts to conflicts and their power of initiative.
Understand better this sign and planet relationship through the following topic, which details what Libra means in each of the planets in the birth chart.
Libra at Mercury
Mercury in Libra indicates many ideas, a good ability to articulate and to see both sides of a situation. On the other hand, much indecision and difficulty in maintaining choices, there is a desire to change with each new piece of information received.
It can be interesting for the native to have trusted people around to help him commit.
Libra in Venus
For those who have Libra in Venus, appearance is essential. Their confidence and well-being come from being well-dressed and from their good posture. But beauty does not belong only to them, it is possible to find beauty in anyone, even in defects.
It is a combination that indicates pleasure in relating to others, having good conversations and allowing yourself small pleasures.
The ideal partner is ambitious, fair and elegant, who conforms to Libra's high standards and wants to build things together.
Libra on Mars
At first, Mars seems weakened in Libra, and yes, never expect this person to take initiative, that's for sure. But the positioning of Mars in Libra is typical of people who fight on both sides of the conflict.
The quest to be a fair person and the ability to understand both sides of a conflict causes natives to constantly change sides in search of the right one.
Libra in Jupiter
Jupiter is the planet that explains how the person understands reality. For someone with Libra in Jupiter, before feeling secure with their analysis, it is necessary to observe and interpret various other people.
Their judgment takes time until they are confident that they haven't left any details behind. Having another person by their side gives them security, as together they can analyze more information in less time.
Libra in Saturn
Working or living alone brings a lot of insecurity for those who have Libra in Saturn. For natives with this position in their chart it seems almost essential to have another person supporting them and making exchanges.
It's important that they don't let the fear of loneliness put them in relationships that hurt them.
Libra at Uranus
For those who have Libra in Uranus, social relationships are guided by the need for space. Together, yes, but independent. Respect for the other's freedom overrides the need for contact.
And while distance may seem impossible for a Librian, what happens is focusing on other characteristics and prioritizing independence over social.
Libra at Neptune
People born with Neptune in Libra were born between 1943 and 1956, and wanted to believe that everything would be okay, because love and justice would have a turn.
With the end of World War II, it was possible to believe that humanity would improve, given the trauma caused by that conflict.
Libra in Pluto
Since Pluto is a generational planet, people who have Libra on this planet are from a generation connected to art, justice and fellowship.
Natives with this placement are those who came into the world between 1972 and 1984.
What is the best advice for someone of the Libra Sign?
To value reason is important, but only rationality does not make anyone balanced, as the Libra person aims. To know and to know one's own emotions is also very important to achieve balance.
Excessive rationality can alienate you from people, who can't really approach you. And worse, this makes them insecure and creates a negative cycle. Showing a little bit of who you really are and your feelings would be enough to make them like you.
The Librian's goal is to be loved by the greatest number of people. For this, the exchange needs to be genuine between giving and receiving attention, another balance which needs to be learned: do not fulfill all the desires of others, nor place yourself as an object of adoration.
Another important point is to have people who respect your time and indecision, as well as your wishes. It's easy to impose yourself and make decisions in Librians' place, but this is not respecting them. It's important that they choose people who reaffirm their identity and keep them safe.
