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How to win over a Scorpio girl
The sun sign can bring valuable information about our personality, work, and even personal relationships. Often, we look for this information to guide us in a love relationship that we are starting or trying to maintain in our lives.
When it comes to a Scorpio person, especially a female one, it is important to keep in mind that "intensity" is the key word. The Scorpio woman is capable of offering everything she can for the maintenance of a loving relationship.
However, the Scorpio girl needs to receive in return the same delivery that she offers. If she realizes that there is not the same reciprocity and she is facing a soft feeling, the Scorpio girl loses interest as quickly as she got it.
In other words, there is no middle ground when it comes to a woman of this sign: give yourself up completely or walk away. So that this doesn't happen, then, keep reading and learn how to win a Scorpio girl!
The Scorpio girl profile
The best way to win over a Scorpio girl is, first of all, to know the main characteristics of this sign. Understand that Scorpio has a tendency to pass subliminal signals, discreet, and wish that the partner is able to understand.
Therefore, always be attentive to the smallest attitudes or words, because, many times, the Scorpio woman may be evaluating your "effort" in understanding her. This mental connection is very important for water signs, which are Scorpio, Cancer and Pisces.
Knowing that your partner is able to pick up on messages or feelings that they didn't actually have to utter shows that you have a silent connection. In addition, it's crucial to know the positives and negatives of their personality.
Despite the stigma about this sign, Scorpios have as many qualities as defects. Throughout the text, we separate topics for you to learn more details about this mysterious sign.
Dates and characteristics
Scorpios are defined as those born between October 23 and November 21, the eighth sign of the Zodiac. The woman of this sign is deep, complex, and therefore sometimes difficult to understand.
Just when you think everything is fine, she comes up with an unexpected problem, just as when you think they are unresolved, she is affectionate and calm. It can be challenging at times, but never dull.
Because of this intensity, Scorpios seek stability and security in their relationships and are unable to stay in a love situation that generates too many bad feelings.
This happens because in the same way that good emotions provoke a great ecstasy in the Scorpio woman, hurt, resentment and mistrust cause so much discomfort that they corrupt her mind and heart, thus damaging the whole balance of her life. When she realizes this, the Scorpio woman prefers to abandon the relationship and continue alone.
Ruling planet
The ruling planet of the sign of Scorpio is Pluto. In former times, Mars was also considered a co-ruler of this sign. However, recent studies name Pluto as the sole ruling planet of Scorpio.
Pluto is the planet which represents nuclear energy, transformation and spirituality among human beings. In Roman mythology, Pluto was the God of the Underworld and therefore Scorpios are surrounded by mystery and are attracted to dark, occult matters and are also controlled by their deepest emotions.
The intensity of Pluto and its relationship with the depths of the soul generates a sixth sense in Scorpio people, making them able to capture the vibrations of the environments they frequent. Therefore, the Scorpio person is able to perceive hidden details, little noticed, and this helps them to understand people.
Element
Scorpio is a sign of the water element, like Cancer and Pisces. The water element represents sensitivity, subconsciousness and feelings in general. Therefore, signs of this element tend to be sensitive and have emotions on the surface. These emotions can be both for good and bad.
With this in mind, water signs are extremely empathic, passionate and sensitive. Here, the term "sensitive" does not only refer to love relationships and the ease of getting hurt, but they are also sensitive to others: they feel and understand, better than other elements, the pain, joy and needs of their fellow human beings.
However, precisely because their emotions are so strong, when they are hurt they hold a grudge and are driven by a feeling of revenge. They close themselves off in order to protect themselves, and use indifference as a defense mechanism.
Personality
The woman of the sign of Scorpio, in general, is mysterious and reserved. She usually observes more than she talks and keeps all the details she considers relevant. So, she can use those "details" if she needs to, at the most opportune moment.
The Scorpio person values sincerity, so don't take "harsh words" to mean offence. Most of the time it is a way of helping and showing concern.
If sincerity is something so important for the Scorpio woman, it must be said in passing that faithfulness and loyalty is a strong feature of her personality. The Scorpio woman will be at your side at all times and will give you all the support you need to conquer all your goals.
If you realize that you are no longer satisfied with the relationship, you will come to you for an honest discussion and, if necessary, an honest end.
However, don't think that it comes for free: just because you value this loyalty so highly, you will be charged accordingly. If she discovers infidelity or realizes that you don't offer the same partnership, anger, resentment and revenge can overwhelm the Scorpio woman and destroy your relationship.
Positive tendencies of a Scorpio woman
Despite the stigma that surrounds the sign, there are several qualities referring to people from Scorpio. In this case, the Scorpio woman is marked by great intensity, intuition, mystery and sensuality. In addition, they are faithful and loyal partners when in love.
Want to know a little more of these characteristics? Below, we list and explain some of them.
Intense
Intensity is something very present in the sign of Scorpio, so the Scorpio woman, when in love, wants to live the relationship to the limit: a lot of surrender in everything she can offer.
You constantly demonstrate the importance of your partner through your attitudes and - sometimes - your words. You will do everything to make you feel special and loved. However, by the same token, fights can be exaggerated.
The intensity of her feelings causes Scorpio women to have angry outbursts, often over issues which would not be so important to other people. Therefore, in a fight she is offensive as a form of defence.
Passionate
Passion in itself is a powerful feeling which awakens hidden desires in the coldest and most calculating of people. In a Scorpio person, this is intensified by their ruling element: water.
Therefore, a Scorpio woman in love is capable of committing the greatest follies for her beloved and cannot hide her feelings - even if she tries.
They are dedicated to their relationship and will do whatever is necessary to keep their passion alive. It is common for Scorpio people to try to get out of the routine and do different things with their partner.
Mysterious
The Scorpio woman has a veil of mystery around her, which prevents those farther away from fully understanding what she thinks or desires. For those closer to her, the difficulty is the same, with the difference that perhaps she lets you understand her.
This mystery is related to the fact that Scorpio people are extremely suspicious, so they do not let their guard down so easily. With this in mind, Scorpio women are often difficult to please: because of all the mystery, partners often do not know how to please them.
Besides the fact that they are suspicious, Scorpio girls are very attentive to details and like when their partner does the same with them. Therefore, it is important that you pay attention to what she says and does, try to understand her without her having to tell you. This will create a bond between you and will strengthen the relationship with the Scorpio girl.
Intuitive
Women with the Sun in Scorpio are driven by emotion and therefore have a sharp intuition as their trademark. These women are masters at seeing between the lines of details that other people miss and often use their instinct to make decisions.
In this way, small details have great significance for them, since they can be the way to something that is not being said. Because of this, it is difficult to hide information from Scorpio women, because any slip-up can be noticed.
Sensual
The sign of Scorpio is known not only for the intensity of their feelings, but also for their sensuality. The Scorpio woman uses all her attributes in a relationship to please her partner, either with an exchange of glances, words or sensual gestures.
Carnal passion is very present in a relationship with this woman. This happens because the Scorpio woman values the sexual relationship as much as any demonstration of affection, considering that she sees both in an interconnected way: sex is a physical way to the connection desired by this sign.
There is nothing more intimate and profound than the union of two bodies that love each other, so the sexual encounter - when intense and meaningful - makes the Scorpio woman fall in love and value the relationship more and more.
Negative tendencies of a Scorpio woman
As human beings, we are not made up only of qualities, so the Scorpio woman is endowed with many positive attributes, but can also have faults which are difficult to deal with.
Manipulation, jealousy, resentment and possessiveness are some of the defining traits of Scorpio women, so read on to better understand this dark side of Scorpio and know how to get around it.
Manipulator
The Scorpioness has as a great characteristic the need to execute everything according to her wishes. It must be the way she wants, in the time she wants. Therefore, in order to get it, she tends to use manipulation in her favor.
Besides the need for control, the Scorpio woman feels the need to manipulate, especially when she feels threatened. Insecurity can be a great vehicle for her to feel the need to "convince" you to give up something or talk to someone who causes her some discomfort, for example.
Jealous
The sign of Scorpio is recognized as one of the most jealous of the Zodiac and it is not for nothing. Women of this sign tend to show constant episodes of jealousy and have as a very strong characteristic the need to "possess" their partner - possessiveness.
Often, jealousy tries to be disguised, but the intensity of it makes it noticeable. In many cases, this feeling is generated from some insecurity on the part of the person in question.
However, in the case of Scorpio women, it is common that it is because of their need for exclusivity in their partner's life: she needs to be unique, superior to all the others in her life. The thought of sharing this place with another, either in the physical attraction or emotional side, awakens intense - and exaggerated - crises of jealousy.
The best way to deal with this issue is to make her feel special so that she doesn't see certain situations as a threat. After all, she will be sure of her place in your life. If jealousy becomes too extreme, it's important to show through dialogue how this hinders the relationship.
Cruel and spiteful
Just as the Scorpio woman gives herself completely in a relationship, any damage caused by this feeling has terrible consequences.
If her trust is broken in any way, the Scorpio woman is intensely wounded and holds deep hurt feelings which can awaken a cruel and vengeful side. The Scorpio woman can be extremely proud and has great difficulty creating a bond of trust.
Because of this, when she feels deceived, she is seized by great hatred and blames herself for having given you credibility. This causes resentment and the need for revenge to arise in an intense and cruel way.
Possessive
Along with the need for control and disproportionate jealousy, the Scorpio woman can be very possessive. When she is in a relationship, her partner is often seen as something "hers", something she has earned.
This possessiveness goes hand in hand with jealousy and control, considering that the desire to possess the partner is born much from the need to control the relationship. To control something, it is necessary that this something is yours and the possibility of not controlling this something that, theoretically, is yours, generates jealousy in sharing it.
For water signs (Scorpio, Cancer and Pisces), possessiveness can be seen as "affection" or "fear of losing", but in general it is a harmful trait for the relationship, since it can suffocate the partner.
What to do to conquer a Scorpio girl?
There are several attitudes that can help in the process of winning the heart of a Scorpio girl. Creativity, sensuality, mystery and vitality can be fundamental in this path. Want to know a little more how? Read the following tips.
Be creative
Creativity is something that Scorpio people value a lot. As it is a sign of water, endowed with a lot of sensitivity, it is common for women of this sign to be interested in artistic and cultural processes in general. In addition, it is also important to be creative in the choices within the relationship.
For example, on commemorative dates, surprise her with a gift that she didn't think she would receive. Try, also, to take her to different places, perhaps, cultural spaces little visited, a theme bar, among other options out of the ordinary. This shows that you know how to use your creativity to please her and differentiates you from others.
Be sexy
Just as the Scorpio woman will offer you plenty of sensuality, she expects the same in return, so it's important that you try your best to use your sexual wiles to impress her: it attracts her.
Sensuality can come both through words and attitudes, use the bodily senses: taste, smell, touch, sight and hearing. As for taste, for example, romantic dinners, with a wine, can awake an aphrodisiac sensation in the Scorpio girl.
In relation to the sense of smell, always be smelly, the right perfume awakens erotic feelings in the coldest. In general, keep the relationship surrounded by sensuality and make her feel desired, is a foolproof way to win a Scorpio girl.
Create a mystery about yourself
Mysterious people generate in others the need to unravel them and provoke curiosity, so leaving a mystery in the air arouses the interest of the Scorpio girl, who already likes challenges.
Scorpios tend to have a heightened intuition and so people are often easy for them to read. When they are faced with someone they need to make an effort to understand, they are automatically trapped and drawn in.
Demonstrate vitality
Considering that Scorpio women value sex and sensuality, it goes without saying that vigor is very important to win the woman of this sign. Show that you are a person with willingness to satiate all their sexual desires.
Apart from sex, Scorpios are very energetic in other areas of life: they like to go out and have adventures and they are very hardworking. Therefore, a partner who is more stationary and, in a way, lazy is not interesting for women of this sign.
What not to do to win over a Scorpio girl?
Scorpio women have a very strong temper and, when they get upset about something, they hardly ever let it go or forget it. So, avoid as much as possible actions that can displease them too much. Below, we have separated some attitudes that are worth repressing when you're in a relationship with a Scorpio woman.
Avoid provoking jealousy
Scorpio women are extremely jealous, so trying to use jealousy to win them over is a shot in the foot. Because they feel intense waves of jealousy, Scorpio women end up having exaggerated reactions when they have to deal with this feeling, which leads to horrible fights in the relationship.
Also, the provocation of jealousy can create a distrust or insecurity in Scorpio. If this happens, the relationship is considerably damaged, considering that stability, security and sincerity are essential pillars for people of this sign.
Avoid excessive romanticism
Scorpio women can be affectionate and very affectionate, but don't confuse this with overly romantic displays of affection. Women of this sign are more practical, so they don't like "honeyed" relationships. Besides, excessive romanticism can devalue the act, losing its shine.
Know when to use romanticism as it is very welcome. Just avoid exaggerating and always remember to give space to your Scorpio girl, who values her private moment.
Avoid giving yourself away directly
The sign of Scorpio is extremely proud and has as a characteristic an inflated ego, so they like challenges and conquest. With this in mind, avoid being too easy to conquer, because the Scorpio girl can lose interest. But do not confuse being challenging with being indifferent.
Scorpio women don't run after those who seem to have no interest in them. However, proving to be difficult to "hold" or understand creates the feeling of a puzzle for the Scorpio woman. This increases their desire to unravel it. In the end, it's a kind of test for themselves: their ability to win you over.
Avoid insecurity
Scorpio women like people who are sure of themselves and know that they can add to their lives. They will hardly stay with someone who doesn't believe in their potential.
Also, as we've talked about in previous threads, the Scorpio woman places a high value on sensuality and eroticism, and insecurity can reduce this Scorpio woman's sexual vision before you, so make it clear that you know what a great woman she is, but that you believe you're good enough to have her.
Avoid trying to control
Scorpio girls need control, they need to manage all aspects of their life and this includes their relationships. With this in mind, they hate it when someone tries to control them, precisely because they lose the position of controller.
It's important to point out that the desire to control can be a very bad trait of a Scorpio woman's character, so avoid letting her take control too openly. However, don't make her feel like you're trying to dominate her.
Avoid lies and betrayal
Sincerity and honesty are fundamental in any relationship, but Scorpios - like everything else in life - take this very seriously. Because they are naturally suspicious, they have great difficulty believing someone completely and are always on the back foot.
Because of this, if they give this trust to you who, in turn, breaks it, they tend to hold deep resentment and are unable to forgive. Cheating on a Scorpio woman is to break all basis of trust and sincerity which, for her, is fundamental to keep in the relationship. Besides losing the relationship, you will gain an enemy for the rest of your life.
How to drive a Scorpio girl crazy
Scorpio people can be a little difficult to deal with and to please. However, there are methods to invade the heart of this sign and win their trust. Emotional availability, attention, sensuality and good sexual relationship are examples of actions that please Scorpio women.
Be open emotionally and sexually
The Scorpio woman values very much the exchange of personal relationships. In reality, people of this decent have great difficulty opening up as they are extremely reserved, so when they see that you are honest and open about your feelings, they feel safe to open up too.
This generates an emotional bond that Scorpio has difficulty having with anyone. Furthermore, exchanging information about sexual desires and fetishes is very important to win over a Scorpio girl, who gets excited by novelties and different possibilities in bed.
Be thoughtful and sexy
Scorpios can be very self-centered at times, and like to be the center of your attention, so being attentive and dedicated to her and the relationship will make her feel unique and special in your life.
This status is very important for the Scorpio woman. Once again, sensuality is fundamental. The attention can come through words in the ear, compliments and caresses, express your sexual side when you are with her.
Capriche in the sex
The sexual act is your moment to show yourself different from the others: in this moment, show that you are there to satisfy her. Sex is not just about you, it is a joining of bodies that connect two people not only physically, but emotionally.
So, show her that what you want most is to please her and give her pleasure. Also, make it clear that satisfying her is also pleasurable for you. Make use of toys or items that can spice up sex, be original and creative. In this way, the Scorpio woman will see your effort to please her and this will make her even more passionate.
How can I win over a Scorpio girl if I'm shy?
You don't need to be extroverted to impress a Scorpio woman, after all, they themselves are more reserved. The important thing is that you know how to make use of this shyness when you're in her presence: take her to places where you're alone, be intimate, show interest in her and put her at ease.
Remember that the most important thing is to be yourself and as natural as possible, Scorpio girls like honest and spontaneous people, because they feel they can create a greater bond this way.
Scorpio girls are difficult but not impossible, believe in your potential and be patient, because by winning her over, you can enjoy a strong and lasting relationship.