General considerations about temperament

The temperament known as melancholic is very sensitive to emotional stimuli, showing themselves to be emotional and sometimes depressive. The way they understand and live in the world is much deeper and they usually literalize and romanticize real experiences, and can be great writers and actors, if they overcome their shyness.

They tend to be socially distant and prefer to isolate themselves on some occasions. Although they feel everything with an absurd intensity, they have great difficulty in exposing what they feel and even prefer not to be seen or accessed. They are suspicious and, when they like something, they try very hard to keep it in their lives.

Melancholic temperament, in childhood and in relationships

As the behavior of melancholics is unique, they usually stand out in the most diverse situations. When you conquer them, you discover a whole universe kept by them.

Although they seem very well alone, this type of personality requires attention and care of others, always respecting their limits, of course. Check now how the melancholics behave in relationships and in childhood and how to identify them!

The melancholy

Melancholics are shy, introverted and very interesting people when they are close to each other. They are extremely detailed, since they spend a lot of time observing the world and do not make opinions about it. They usually have a very refined and unique taste, especially when talking about the consumption of culture.

They are demanding with everything they produce, but have great difficulty in expressing dissatisfaction with the unsatisfactory work of others. In addition, they value education and good manners. The less they are seen, the better. They are intelligent and rehearse all their steps.

The element representing melancholic behaviour

The element that represents the melancholic is the earth. This is because he is very attached to the world, with firm and strong roots. The earth, even in silence, maintains everything we have. It is grandiose, although what stands out is what is born on it.

Besides that, they are fruitful like this element, being creative and extremely inspired when we talk about art production in general. Therefore, the earth needs rain to bloom and the melancholic needs space to show his flowers to the world.

The type of reaction of melancholics

As they find it very difficult to externalize what they really feel, the melancholic reacts with a deafening coldness and silence, even though they are deeply hurt. Crying a lot is part of their personality, but they prefer to do it alone or in the company of someone they really trust.

They tend to take a long time to express their discontent, being read as docile people. However, it is not quite like that; since when they reach their limit, the outburst can be greater than that of a sanguine. So, give them space.

Melancholic in childhood

In childhood, the melancholic may have a very discrepant behavior if compared to another child. They are more distant, preferring solitary games with dolls or cars. They have difficulty making friends and always need the help of an adult in the spaces they go.

When they need to socialize, they usually hide behind their parents and don't talk to anyone. Because of this behavioral structure, they are usually very selfish with their things, since they value them more than social contact. In addition, they are smart and learn best on their own.

Melancholy and relationships

Contrary to what it may seem, within relationships, the melancholic is thoughtful and kind, being a great listener, with a great loyalty. If a melancholic has called you a friend, know that you will have him or her forever.

The great difficulty is to make them gain security and trust, because they are ariscible and it can be a challenge to share a life together, since the basis of a relationship is dialogue and clarity of feelings. The best thing to do is not to put pressure and make the whole approach following their primer.

Characteristics of a person with a melancholic temperament

Within this type of temperament, there are some characteristics that draw attention, such as the fact that they are loyal friends and thoughtful and faithful people. Every personality has praiseworthy things and things that are not so praiseworthy. Check out the main characteristics of melancholics and how they influence the life of those who have it!

Loyal friends

Since they have a hard time making friends, they cherish the ones they have. The intention is to preserve them for life. In this way, a melancholic person is someone you can always count on, whether in good times or bad.

The melancholic tends to be that friend who accompanies you to medical appointments, who keeps your most intimate secrets and who, when you are together, time has a great quality. He seeks to understand the totality of his friends, as well as being a great counsellor, since he is very observant and sensitive.

Weighted

As they are analytical people, they have an excellent sense of justice, especially when it is to analyze things holistically, since they usually exclude themselves from most situations. They have a calmness that can even be understood as coldness when it comes to taking a side.

They are great when you need advice on a new project or opening a business, for example, because they study the data, the circumstances and if it is really feasible. In addition, they can be very understanding if you need to reschedule an appointment with them.

Creative

Melancholics are very creative because they observe a lot, so they put together the techniques they have learned and use them to create bigger things, so they can be great in creative areas like advertising and even as writers, as they are sensitive and usually have a very keen eye for understanding feelings.

Usually, they are more attached to the traditional, however, they do the traditional in a more stylized and unique way. Their learning is more by observation and listening, so they tend to develop musical skills as well, being able to speak even more than one language of art.

Introverts

The basic principle of the personality of melancholics is introversion. They are shy and this shyness inhibits them from various social contacts and experiences which are commonplace for people who have other types of temperament.

However, those who think that these people are introverts all the time are mistaken. When they are extremely happy, they can act extroverted, yes. And they usually assume this posture when they are together with the people around them, confusing some people a lot. They are extroverts when they trust the people around them at the moment.

Efficient analysts

Melancholics' analytical skills are impeccable, they even love people asking for their advice and analysis in this regard. They prove to you with spreadsheets, data and sources the best ways to do whatever you have in mind.

They are great planners and are usually organized within these processes. They like to organize the whole situation so they can visualize it more clearly. Their line of thinking is unrolled and they can prove themselves right because the word is never the only basis of their opinions.

Depressants

Melancholics feel things too deeply and, more seriously, they cannot open up easily. They pile up their problems and, almost always, are engaged in solving the problems of their friends and family, which takes them even further away from their feelings.

Thus, it is normal for them to have waves of deep sadness or even the emergence of psychic disorders such as depression and anxiety. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to try to talk to melancholic people about them. Usually, they try to avoid it, but it is something they also need, but they don't know how to ask for this help.

Primary melancholic temperaments

Nobody is a solid construction of temperament, being a mix of at least two of them. Thus, understanding the temperament mixtures is fundamental to understand how to deal with the next feelings and, especially, how to deal with the feelings of others. Check now the melancholic temperament combined with the other 3 and how it behaves!

What they are

Melancholics combined with other temperaments can be very interesting, because this temperament adds a unique passivity and intelligence to the one who has it. These combinations, in total, form 12 new arrangements of personalities, which are mixed among people.

Although not proven, the 12 blended temperaments seem like a parallel of the western zodiac signs. It's interesting to take a personality test to find out which ones are yours and, after that, try to draw a parallel with your sign.

Melancholic-sanguine

Both temperaments are sensitive and very intense, so when we talk about someone who has the melancholic temperament combined with the sanguine temperament, we are practically talking about an artist.

This person is very sensitive in their environments, observing the world in a much more lyrical and poetic light. They are fanciful and their temperaments, especially when they are in the creative process, can become very explosive and rude.

Melancholic-choleric

A melancholic who has a complementary choleric temperament is someone who has great potential for leadership, though he or she has difficulty in creating a connection with people. His or her sensitivity makes him or her an understanding and helpful leader.

As a choleric trait, this leader, however, is very perfectionist and even annoying when we talk about work and productions that he does, because he is very demanding and demands a high standard from those who are working with him. But when he does, he usually tries to be as polite and sensitive as possible. The idea is always to encourage people to keep doing what they like.

Melancholic-Fleumatic

Melancholics with phlegmatic tendencies are extremely resilient people, but they tend to sabotage themselves and doubt their potential. At the heart of it all, they know they are skilled, and can be great writers and even mathematicians, but they have very fluctuating self-esteem.

They love the solitude of the night and use this time alone to strengthen their spirituality. They give great advice and always take everything to a more philosophical side. They can debate about the silliest and most complex things.

Secondary melancholic temperaments

Thinking about the isolated construction of each temperament, we cannot define a person. This is because each temperament is a much increased version of each of the elements. This mixture of temperaments makes people more real, more human.

Check out the temperaments that, with the melancholic temperament, become more sensitive and gentle!

What they are

The predominant temperament always brings more characteristics to the person who possesses it, but the second, which serves as a kind of 'ascendant', also plays a decisive role in the personal organization of each person.

The melancholic as a second element in the composition of a personality, usually brings a sensitivity and a subtlety in dealing with the other and also with themselves. Besides that, they bring a strong artistic vein, which is always very different and curious.

Sanguine-Melancholic

A sanguine person who has as a complement the melancholic temperament is someone who brings the emotions to the last power, being able to be laughing one minute and, in the next, to be crying. And nobody needs to have done anything. This is something characteristic of them.

They are dreamers, but they value security, so they live a great moral dilemma of knowing when to stop dreaming and settle down in reality. This is the biggest dilemma that involves them, since they always think and rethink their plans and dreams, but they don't know how to follow them.

Choleric-melancholic

When a choleric person brings characteristics of the melancholic temperament, he is expected to be someone with quick thinking and a very great coldness in solving practical things. Although he feels a lot, he keeps to himself, but also demands that others keep to themselves.

Within relationships, he can be quite authoritarian and someone who decides for both of us. He holds a grudge, but won't admit that people say they are hurt by something they have done. He is a sarcastic person and uses clever humour as his main weapon of defence.

Phlegmatic-melancholic

The phlegmatic-melancholic is for sure the most peaceful combination of all 12 temperaments combined. They are calm, quiet and always willing to help. They are usually quite solitary internally, but in general they are always accompanied by friends and family.

They are organized and take care of making the lives of everyone around them more pleasant. They work very well under pressure, as it is very difficult to make them angry or distressed about something external. Besides that, they don't like to make big decisions and always choose to be silent instead of arguing.

Different temperaments and personality

Personality is not something solid or standardized. It is important to keep this in mind when talking about temperaments and how they can be isolated. However, it is important to understand about all of them to know what yours is and, mainly, to know how to deal with different people.

Check now some information about the other 3 temperaments and their particularities and curiosities!

The different temperaments

There are 3 other types of personalities, except the melancholic, which are the choleric, the phlegmatic and the sanguine. They are opposed to each other and, in isolation, can bring a lot of exaggeration and even some stereotypes.

However, no one has only one temperament, being more reality-oriented and bringing qualities of defects of each. It is important to say that even people with the same two temperament combinations, can be different, since humans can not be standardized and these temperaments are not absolute rules.

Choleric, phlegmatic and sanguine

Choleric people are born leaders. They are communicative and want to achieve their goals no matter what. They gesticulate a lot and seem invincible. They like attention and when they get angry, they can be explosive and even violent.

Very different from phlegmatic people, who are calm, peaceful and quiet, they are very polite and are always looking out for everyone around them. They are talkative, but are also great listeners. They work well under pressure and don't usually let things shake them.

Finally, there is the sanguine temperament. This personality type is very intense and sentimental, making everything a big show. In addition, they are talkative and exaggerated, always looking for attention and affection. They are quarrelsome and emotional, but are loyal to friends and committed.

Temperament and personality

The personalities of each temperament, in some points, are quite opposite, especially when we talk about the choleric and the melancholic or between the sanguine and the phlegmatic. However, when they come together in pairs, they are usually complementary.

Thus, the choleric temperament may be more explosive and expansive, as well as the sanguine, but the sanguine may be more sentimental, like the melancholic, who, in turn, is calm like the phlegmatic, who is as organized and methodical as the choleric. They, in general, form a perfect circle that forms all of us.

Why is it important to understand people's temperaments?

Understanding people's temperament is a fundamental step to know how to deal with them. And, knowing how to deal with people, we can live together respecting them and without passing the basic limit of respect, which should be present in every relationship.

We are not obligated to go through every pain, but we are obligated to understand how they hurt and take care of those who suffer them. In addition, understanding the temperament of those around us can be very beneficial, since by speaking in the right way, we can achieve much more.