Do you want to win over a Cancerian?

Just like the crab which represents his sign, the Cancerian can walk around covered by a hard shell. Initially, he may seem reserved and difficult to read. But as you get closer to him, he will show his true nature: sensitive, intuitive and with a huge capacity to love.

Whether it's his initial mystery or the qualities he reveals little by little, it's easy to fall in love with a Cancerian. So, if you want to know how to win him over, you've come to the right place. Read on, absorb what you'll learn and get ready to have a great romance with one of the most emotional signs of the zodiac!

How is a Cancerian man in love

Gifted with intense and deep feelings, the Cancerian needs stability and security to express what he feels, without taking big risks. For this reason, he is prone to more serious and lasting relationships, and does not measure efforts to make his loved ones happy. To know more about it, keep reading!

The Cancerian is emotional

The sign of Cancer is ruled by the Moon, which is linked to everything that is deepest in an individual. It is associated with feminine energy, which involves intuition and emotions. It is not surprising then that the Cancerian man is extremely emotional, even if he sometimes hides in his crab shell.

People of this sign often cry easily (either from sadness or joy) and have a very strong attachment to the past. They don't easily get over events that have happened and can be very nostalgic and even spiteful. But with the right way of welcoming and dealing with your Cancerian, you can get the best out of this emotionality.

Changes moods easily

Cancerians are very sensitive and tend to be affected by everything that happens. This can lead to sudden mood swings which often seem to have no explanation. But, in fact, there is always a reason.

When the reason for the mood swing is apparent, it can seem small to the people around - too small to cause that reaction. This makes many people think that the Cancerian is dramatic, which, for him, is a huge injustice, because he is not exaggerating his reaction, but just reacting according to what he feels.

The Cancerian is romantic

Being sentimental, Cancerians fall in love easily. He also tends to be traditional and prefers lasting and stable relationships to quick and superficial involvements. He is the type of man who dreams of having a great love and of building a family with this person.

Once he feels secure, his way of expressing his love is worthy of a romance film. He will enjoy more traditional encounters, like the typical candlelit dinner, and pampering his loved one with classic romantic gestures. In this way, Cancerians devote themselves entirely to their partners and expect the same in return.

Afraid of suffering and getting hurt

Despite falling in love easily, Cancerian men don't give themselves away easily. Remember the crab shell: for Cancerian men to allow themselves to be vulnerable and show what's under the shell, they need to feel very safe with you.

The carapace is a protection: someone who feels everything so intensely, when he gets hurt, he feels the pain much more intensely than other people. Being someone so anchored in the past, he has a hard time getting over hurts. So, it is natural that the Cancerian tries to protect himself and it is important to respect his space and welcome him as best as possible when he opens up.

The Cancerian man is loyal

Once you've won the confidence and love of a Cancer man, you can be sure that you have a partner for all hours. Cancerians value the people they're close to and are willing to do practically anything for their well-being. They defend their loved ones tooth and nail and will always be ready to offer a shoulder to cry on when you need to get something off your chest.

Furthermore, Cancerians are not prone to cheating on their love partners. Once this native believes he has found the love of his life, he will go to great lengths to preserve that relationship. The Cancer man is not the type who sees a problem in spending his entire life devoted to the same person.

How to win over a Cancerian

Romantic and loyal, the Cancerian man is a great candidate for a love affair. So, now that you understand how he works, let's get to the main thing: how to win the Cancer man. See more below!

Be a more "family" person

Among all the signs of the zodiac, the sign of Cancer is the most family-oriented. Often described as motherly - regardless of gender - Cancerians know how to look after their own like no other and love being where they feel at home.

They look for these same characteristics in their love partners, since they need to have someone by their side with whom they can build the family they desire so much. Therefore, when you talk to Cancerians, talk about your family and ask questions about theirs.

Talk about your hometown, if you're not there anymore - they love nostalgic conversation - and also talk about your dreams for a future home, as he'll be thrilled. Get him closer to your family and do your best to get closer to his, especially his mother, if he still has her around, as Cancer men tend to have a strong bond with their mothers.

Accept your way of being

To win over a Cancerian man, show that you think differently and he'll see you in a different light. Validate his feelings and make him feel welcome. This will make him more and more comfortable and allow him to be vulnerable around you.

Embark with him on the nostalgic conversations he initiates. Also, ask about his past and talk about yours, showing that you understand the importance of memories to him. This will make the Cancerian want to make good memories with you.

Caprice on the first date

Since Cancer men like to savor memories, make your first date truly unforgettable. It doesn't necessarily have to be something grand (although that might even work), it just needs to be something that stirs the emotions.

So, if you know of a place that's very special to him, try proposing to meet him there, or take him somewhere that's special to you. This attitude will show that you allow yourself to be vulnerable with him, which will make the Cancerian more comfortable with you.

Give compliments

Cancerians have a lot of insecurities and a good way to combat this is with compliments. But they are very intuitive, so always give sincere compliments. If the Cancerian man catches a lie, it can shake the trust he has in you. So, notice the points that you really appreciate and tell him.

So, compliment him on his appearance, his attitudes, his manner, the way he relates to people and much more. Show that you notice him and make him feel valued. This will make him feel close to you and enjoy your company more and more.

Show sympathy

You can be the lightness Cancerian needs when he's in a bad mood. Smile a lot to him and show that, even though you value what you feel, you know how to make situations lighter and simpler. Show that you enjoy being with Cancer man and he will want to show that this is reciprocated.

Treat him well and treat other people well, too: greet them and show politeness. This is something everyone appreciates, but for Cancerians, it is fundamental. A pleasant person makes others feel comfortable around her, which counts many points with Cancerians.

Be traditional

Just as they're attached to the past, Cancerians are attached to traditions, so whenever in doubt, go for the more classic. For example, when you're doing something together, they're more likely to prefer a romantic picnic to an emotional trail, or a classic candlelit dinner to a karaoke night.

Besides, Cancerians don't really like superficial affairs, or sudden and overwhelming crushes, even if they love intensely. They like the good old traditional romance: meeting someone, falling in love and building a life with that person. So, show them that this is what you want.

How to win over a hurt Cancerian

Faced with a hurt, Cancerians can hide in their shell and sometimes it seems like they'll never come out. But take it easy, because it's possible to fix this and show them that they can trust you. Find out how!

Acknowledge mistakes

If you've made a mistake with a Cancer man, the first step is to acknowledge it. Show him that you know where you went wrong, that you're sorry, and that you're willing to make amends. Encourage him to express how he feels and validate his feelings by showing him that you realize how much your actions have affected him.

To understand that you deserve to be part of his life again, the Cancerian needs to see that you are a person who is willing to recognize and repair his own mistakes, and that you will make an effort not to hurt him again. Only a person who knows the wrong actions he has done is able to avoid them in the future.

Give him the time he needs

Cancerian men have a very hard time getting over events, so they can be spiteful, and if you've hurt one of them, it's possible he'll relive that hurt again and again for a while.

So show a willingness to make up for his mistakes, but don't pressure him to rush into welcoming you back. Forcing the issue can cause him to shut down even more and can make your mission that much harder. Just be patient and respect his time.

There is an African proverb that says that "crab hides so the water can pass", so if the Cancerian is still running away from you, it's because the wound is still open. Give him space to work out what happened.

Show that the Cancerian is important to you

Express how important the Cancer man is to you and how much you want his well being and that you didn't mean any harm. Being careful not to invade his space, ask him from time to time how he's feeling. Show that you miss the Cancer man and that you really want to get back together.

If you hear a song that reminded you of him or see something on the street that reminds you of a time you had together, tell him about it. Nostalgia will stir him and it's through the little situations that he'll understand how important he is to you.

Have persistence

It's important not to pressure the Cancer man, but be persistent. Without rushing him, constantly reinforce that you are there, for when he feels ready to have you around. For having many insecurities, the Cancerian needs many proofs that he can open up and your persistence will be further proof of this.

Understand that the Cancerian man has his time to deal with what has hurt him and that he is afraid of suffering again by opening up once more. But once he is convinced that your intentions are genuine, the crab will come out of his shell. Then, when it happens, the wait will have been worth it.

How to win over a Cancerian in bed

After learning so much about how to conquer a Cancer man, comes the most expected time for some. It is very important to know what to do, in bed, because moments of intimacy are very special for the Cancerian and you can make them unforgettable for him. So keep reading and check out how to conquer a Cancerian in bed!

Show affection

You know that Cancerians are romantic, sensitive and emotional, so affection means a lot to them and is essential in intimate moments. So, touch them gently, say romantic things and praise them. Show them that the moment is also special for you and let them feel your affection.

You can hold his hand, hug him, kiss his face, pet him, and more. These are gestures that many people underestimate at the moment, but that will make all the difference to the Cancer man. By showing affection, you'll make him feel much closer emotionally - and emotional connection is very important to him.

Make him comfortable

Do what you can to make the Cancer man comfortable, and you can do this in a variety of ways, such as through clear demonstrations of affection, or even by talking to him. Don't be afraid to talk during this intimate moment of yours, just express how you feel and let him express himself, too.

Also, try to make sure that Cancerians don't feel pressured to give an amazing performance or do something they don't want to do. Show them that they can be authentic and enjoy everything without fear of being vulnerable. Remember that Cancerians have a hard time opening up and need this to connect with you, so this is a very important aspect.

Create an enabling environment

Creating a romantic atmosphere will make all the difference in H-hour with Cancerian men. You can do this through grander gestures worthy of romance movies, like spreading red rose petals on the bed, but you can also have excellent results with simpler attitudes.

You can, for example, put a background music that helps create a climate, or put a scented candle, to leave a pleasant full in the environment. The Cancerian, for sure, will like the result and your intention to please him and create a romantic moment will already count many points with him.

Take your time, but have intensity

It's important that you're not in a hurry, as a rushed attitude can scare the Cancer man into feeling uncomfortable and consequently holding back. So, enjoy every moment and don't skip any steps. This will show him that, apart from enjoying what you're doing, you're enjoying being with him.

But being in a hurry doesn't mean you don't have intensity, so give him your full attention and every detail of the moment. When the Cancerian sees your delivery, he'll be much more comfortable giving himself to the moment, too. Allow yourself to have a soul connection with him.

How NOT to conquer a Cancerian

You, probably, already have a good idea of what to do to win your Cancerian. However, it is also very important to know what not to do. There are some mistakes that can sabotage your relationship with the Cancerian man and that, therefore, should be avoided. So, learn all about them below!

Skipping steps

Being too thirsty can scare the Cancer man, who fears vulnerability and needs to feel safe in order to establish a deeper connection. So when the Cancer man gets scared, he tends to withdraw into his shell and shut himself off.

Enjoy each step of the conquest and don't be in a hurry to reach your goal. It's normal for you to take some time or to go back home from time to time. Just respect his time and he will surely recognize and appreciate your patience and willingness. Besides, when he opens up, he will make a point of rewarding you.

Counter him

Cancer men can be especially difficult when you disagree with them. These stubborn Crabs hate to be contradicted and tend to hold back when it happens because they feel it's a personal attack.

The intentions behind Cancerians' attitudes are usually good and unselfish, and going against them makes them feel that those intentions are being rejected or scorned. So feeling this can be devastating for a Cancerian.

In this way, you don't have to follow him in absolutely everything, but when you don't agree with him, express it as gently as possible, always remembering to validate how the Cancerian feels. This way, you avoid him closing himself off.

Talk about his mistakes

Secretly insecure Cancerian men don't react well when someone points out their mistakes. This intensifies this natural insecurity and they can get defensive because they feel they are not accepted. Also, they tend to hold a grudge, so they may never forget this and may even point out the same mistakes in you that you pointed out in them, if they notice the same actions in you.

However, this doesn't mean that you have to pretend that he never makes mistakes. If you indicate in a subtle and affectionate way the points in which he can improve, it is likely that the Cancerian will welcome what you say. Your chances are even greater if you show that you want him to do well and express in a peaceful way that certain attitudes hurt you. Just as he hates to be hurt, the Cancerian doesn't want to hurt you.

Doubting the intuition of the Cancerian

If you know the story that when mom talks, it happens, know that the sign of Cancer is the most maternal sign of the zodiac (even when it's a man) and that applies to him too.

Ruled by the Moon, this sign is very sensitive and is able to pick up on and foresee situations that others can't. So never underestimate the intuition of a Cancerian man. It is usually accurate, so it's hard to fool him and it's a good idea to listen to him if he tries to warn you about something.

Also, devaluing this ability of the Cancerian can make him feel devalued as a whole. As with his other traits, it's important that you show welcome to this trait so that he feels comfortable.

Is winning over a Cancerian man a difficult task?

Winning the love of a Cancerian needs first of all the conquest of his trust, since he needs to be sure that he can be vulnerable with you. Therefore, winning a Cancerian can seem a long and complex task.

But the secret here is to enjoy every step of this conquest, without letting impatience take over. Little by little, this affective journey will become more and more pleasurable and you will certainly enjoy joining the select group of people who know a Cancerian man in depth.

Don't forget that Cancerians are great love partners and that your efforts to make this relationship develop and work out will certainly be worth it!